The Let Them Theory
As a self identified bibliophile who loves to read, I highly recommend that you read The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. This book is a friendly reminder that life is not always fair but you have two choices. You can focus on the wrongs that have happened to you or you can focus your energy on things that are in your control. What I really enjoyed about this book is that Mel Robbins was honest about some of her lowest points in her life when she and her husband were in so much debt and the emotional turmoil that she went through several stages when she was reinventing herself, raising her kids, and realising that friendships change over time. A few key lessons that I took from the book are as followed:
Emotional maturity isn’t something you are born with or that just happens. It’s a skill that takes time, practice, and a desire to learn. In other words, you have to put in the work.
Learn to ride the emotional wave by letting yourself feel whatever you need to feel, and don’t try to control it or avoid it to change. Life has a way of going back to a new normal.
Life isn’t fair! Stop allowing other people’s success paralyse you. The reality is that you can’t control another person’s success, luck, or timing in life.
95% of the things that you want in life are things that you can create if you are willing to work hard, be consistent, disciplined, and patient.
Never let someone else’s emotional reactions keep you from making the hard decisions.
While we live in a world where you may feel like it is too late to change, develop, or evolve; this book is a friendly reminder that it is not. Will it be easy? No. But nothing in life that is worth achieving ever is. This book will provide you with tips on how to respond with compassion, set boundaries, and stop letting other people’s emotional immaturity run your life. I may re-read this before the new year! Happy Reading.
